Death, what's your take on it?

Death...there’s something about it that makes most of us scared of it. And yet, there’s something about it that makes some of us drawn to it...but what is it???


I like to believe that, most of us are scared of death because we have lived long enough to search for the one thing, the one purpose of life. But sadly, we haven’t found that “thing” before we die. That’s why we are all afraid of dying. Because we haven’t found yet what is it that makes our life more meaningful. We live our life enjoying, rejoicing on the things that can last temporarily, and telling ourselves that this is life! Life is fun and everything! Little did we know that it can last only for so long? Beyond that, we know that we have to look for something that can give meaning and purpose to life. But the real question is...what is it? That’s why we need to know the answer to that question, so that we would know where to start looking for it. We all know that the answer to that question won’t come to us easily. Like the saying; “things don’t just fall from the sky”...perhaps only rain I would say. We can keep on trying so long we are still breathing. The moment we stop breathing, that’s when we know if we have find the answer to the question. The answer need not be the same for everyone. Think of life an empty paper; we are the ones holding the pen and write our own fate. We are all holding our each and individual pen without any eraser or liquid. That is why they say that mistakes in life are not erasable. As we are writing our own fate, the mistakes that we have made are noticeable for a very good reason; that is to learn from them. This is the very reason why some wise people believe that we are in charge of our own fate. At times, God is at work and that would explain why the fate of two strangers can intertwine. Look at it as, God sees that these two strangers’ fate writing as complementary to each other. Maybe with God’s little intervention would make the two strangers’ life more meaningful. But that does not necessarily mean that both of them have found the answer to the question. Keep in mind that God will only guide you in search of the answer, the rest; you are on your own with your pen.


While some people are afraid of death, there are individual who are keen on taking their own life or dying. Why??? The only simple explanation is that these group of individual think of it as the easiest way out. Maybe, just maybe...they have been trying to look for the answer everywhere; highs and lows...in and out...like every corner of the world. They just haven’t had any luck with it yet. They feel like the next best thing that they can do is to give up...which translates to taking own life. They think by doing that, all problems would be solved! Reality is, they are far from being right! When they left, they would leave the people who cares for them in tears and puzzled. Why would anyone do that to the person who cares for them the most? Really, do you think that they deserve that?? Hell no! So, next time you feel like telling the whole world that you wanna die or that you are planning on your own suicide, think! Not once, not twice...a millions of time. Dying is not the easiest way out...it is the easiest way to hell.

A LESSON IN LIFE

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere.
If someone hurts you, betrays you , or breaks you heart, forgive them. For they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.

You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

i need the world to know and to have....

Dear Whoever,

If you have come across this note, you are accountable for whatever that is understood by you that are in this note as in a few years to come, I may or may not be here. I have been diagnosed for a mild coronary artery disease called Angina last 2 months, but I refuse to do 2 things; one being my rejection for any kind of treatment, medication or consultation and the second is the refusal to let my family come to the information because I believe that the money for the treatment of my disease could be put to a better use and with all that has been on my father’s shoulder, I couldn’t stand looking at father’s face when I break the news to him or the others. But say if I am not here anymore when you are reading this, then you should know that I want and need all my family members to know that I am really sorry for what I have done to them by not telling them what I have been going through ever since. Together with that I also need you to tell everyone who knew me that they have touched my life in their own different ways and I am very thankful that God has sent them to me. I need them to continue to touch as many lives as they can because it is such a wonderful gift to have your life touched by someone before you leave. They are making it soo much easier for me to leave knowing that each of them has touched my life in any way that they can. After that, I want to give away my eyes, heart (if it’s not the cause of my death), liver, kidneys, bones, lungs and pancreas to anyone that is in need of them. Regardless of their race, religion or anything. Just give it to them for free if they need it. This is the last thing that I can do to touch someone else’s life without ever knowing them. Who says you have to know someone to touch their life? It is not in the handbook that I got when I was born. Of course, the handbook was written by me! After that, I want one-third of my earthly belongings being channelled to the poor and the needy. Another two-third will go to my father, sister and brother whom I loved dearly and deeply with all my heart. And lastly, to the person whom GOD has written that is for me, I need him to know that it would be great if we could spent our lives together, but maybe this is for the best. I know that it would have been the most beautiful part of our life if I were to stay longer, but I have no control over this...I have to yield to whatever that GOD has in store for me, even though it is bitter and hard for me to swallow. My dearest, we need to remember that things happen for a reason.

LOVE,
RAISA

ALWAYS...

Well, today is the eve of valentines day and i didnt expect to feel soo low...i thought i can get through the day feeling happy for my cousin who will be hosting a wedding reception tomorrow. but then, i dont think i can even put on a fake smile! yes, it is that hard for anyone to even carve a smile when you are in pain. long before i met him, i used to live in my own world, living my own live without having intruders! that was because initially i had a thick wall built around myself...for heart-proofing myself from any form of disapointment. but after i met you, i thought it will be a one-time thing, and after that..."whats new?" i didnt think that you are gonna stay for long. you stayed longer than i expected you would. 2 years after we met, i think you were genuinely sincere and you are truly a friend, that is when i make some room in my own little world for you. you were caring enough to break down the walls that i have built for 10 years now. I LET YOU IN. everything was nice and flowery...that feeling, its like walking on the clouds with you and nothing can ever ruined it for us. but somehow, i feel that someone wants me to taste the reality. and so i did, it was nothing like walking on the clouds! its soo much harder than that...i miss walking in the clouds with him. maybe its harder here on earth because of the gravity that has been pulling you down. next time (i dont think there will be a next time), i just have to realize that life is not always a walk in the clouds. i didnt see that (reality) coming...maybe because of the clouds that have been covering my face and got my sight impaired. when you say those words, suddenly i feel i just hit rock bottom. i fell and it hurts a lot!!! im am bleeding inside and out,but you cant see my blood gushing out of my body. its nothing but some feeling that i felt, and now im drowning in the flood of my own tears because without you i give up. i love you, and i will always will love you til the stars dont shine...

...and I finally find the reason to stay alive

Yesterday, something happened to me that made me realised that I have lost the will to live. Well, I am not gonna tell you what is it as it is very embarrassing that the thought of it make me think less of myself. You know people say that “what defines a person is not by his or her achievements but rather how he or she rise after falling”. I have been a fan of that saying until yesterday, I stop believing in everything. I have give in everything to redeem myself for the second time and God knows why it didn’t work out that well for me. I have reached a point where I have no idea what to do anymore! Which you would easily translate to... me giving up. I know that I am in no position to say this, but I think that life have stop being fair to me. And again, I don’t know why? Maybe I must have done something wrong or maybe it’s something else? See, I have been trying to figure that out since yesterday, and even luck have stop favouring me! So, basically yesterday was not the best day ever for me.


Later that night, someone tried to convince me that life has a lot more to offer so that I won’t take my own life. And he said (yes, it’s a HE) that I have other things that I can focus on to keep on living. Still, I am not that convinced because I have been hit very hard by the “tragedy”. He ask me to find some other reason to not take my own life and that if I ever do wish to proceed with the suicide, I should plan a suicide for 2. Weird huh? Well, not to me. That is because I have been the reason for his being here in this world. Can you actually blame him? I don’t think so. For that, I blame myself. I blame me for allowing him to fall for me. Why did I ever have to be nice to him when I shouldn’t? Why would I go on and entertain him when I know that we met by an accident? I have had every chance in the world to not allow him to fall for me because I am a very dark and twisted person. I have issues that need to be settled long before I can allow a person to fall for me or allowing myself to fall for a person. But I did allow him anyway. FYI, I am not all bright and sunshine tho to some I may appear like one. Thinking about the chances that I shouldn’t have pursued with him when the window of opportunity is wide open, made me think that someone up there is trying to make me see something that I still can’t see. But I am still trying tho. But, so far I have only seen the wonders of my decision to continue being friends with him. If I have been given the chance to go back into time and change something that I feel in needs of changes; this, I wouldn’t have done it any differently to change it. It is too perfect for me for any changes to take place. I will only go back into time and re-live the moments of our “accident”.


And suddenly, it struck me that...these are the moments that I thanked God that Im alive. This is the very reason that has kept my heart beating with a fun and loving rhythm. The reason for me being alive has been here with me all the while and I am just too arrogant and blind to see it. It is this kind of moment that I know heaven must exist and it is the place to be. Why would I search in the most ridiculous places to find a reason to go on living when I have already know what the reason is?? My reason being alive is to make the people that I love the most happy at any cost and to take on chances that actually can bring you to a place that no one can ever imagine. These are the possibilities that life has to offer you only if you are willing to take on the chances and make the decisions that come from your heart. You think it’s a load of crap? Try and feel it for yourself...any decision that you make, let it come from your heart. It’s more sincere that way.

LOST FRIEND

However hard you may try losses are inevitable…One day, after an unsatisfactory phone call or after a strained talk at an all-out blowout, you mutter to yourself, "What's wrong? Why am I not feeling he/she longer like a friend? Something has gone…has been lost" WHY?...Why would a once close friend suddenly, or even gradually, turns into lost friend?...Well... Most friendships break for one of three main reasons: a major change such as marriage or a move...neglect...or the betrayal. Lets examine that shall we...


CHANGE
The most frequently and usually friendship is disrupted because of a major change—for better or worse—in the life of a friend. The change factor is part emotional and part practical. Since most friendships begin when both people are going through similar experiences, when something big happens to change the status of one friend (good job, financial success, romantic relationships or marriage), it's human nature for the other to feel some envy—"Why he/ she and not me?". And vice versa if a friend's life is going downhill that is human nature to give up the relationship avoiding contact with a LOST friend...And for sure discovery of new limits on time, energy, and attention is mere practical source of contention between friends. The friend whose life has changed least will usually have to make more accommodations, at least during the initial period of change. Whatever the case, you can count on change to impact even your most treasured lifelong friendships.


NEGLECT
Life is motion…all what is our life has to constantly move forward…we have to work, develop, never let it die out…Some friendships die because they aren't moving forward. They die from stagnation or plain neglect. You promised to call but didn't. You knew it was your friend's birthday, but were too busy to celebrate…Think about it. When we're busy, we only do what comes easy, and even good friendships aren't always easy. Lack of attention and concern is sure to cause a rift. And when it does, it almost always catches us off guard, when we least expect it or can least handle it: when we're going through stressful times at school, work, or home that make us less attentive and less able to respond—which is what caused the neglect to begin with. That's why it can seem that the best friendships break precisely when we need them the most.


BETRAYAL
Betrayal is the most painful reason loosing friend…this is a case when lost trust results in lost friend. Your confidant, who knows your darkest secrets (how deeply you're in debt or your struggle with an eating disorder), has let one of them out of the bag. And what is morel, your close friend has the power to hurt you precisely because he/ she knows you so well; your deepest secrets arm his/her with the emotional weapon that can cut you to the core. And you're left wondering if he/she will do it again...

Lost friend takes leave with a bang or whimper...Those that whimper simply dissolve from neglect, having run their natural course. It is normal to shed friends throughout our lives: when we leave school, when we change jobs, when we move to a new city, even when we drop an aerobics class. Start a new romance, get married, have children, and you probably leave behind a circle of friends...Friendships ending with a bang are more likely the result of an unexpected change or a more dreadful betrayal...


Regardless of how a friendship breaks, with a bang or a whimper, you will inevitably find yourself wondering whether it should be repaired, whether you should do what you can to salvage what is left or just let it go. If you value a relationship that has come to the end of the road, we urge you not to write zour lost friend off completely—at least not just yet. Okay, so you've been burned, betrayed in a way you never deserved. You want to get even. But you have a choice: you can experience some momentary satisfaction by slamming the door shut and keeping it locked with offence, or you can give yourself space and time to cool off and collect your thoughts...Time really does have away of healing deep hurts. Time allows forgiveness to wash away anger and keep us healthy. Returning lost friend and restored relationship can give us perspective on our experiences, deepen our lives. So...every cloud has silver lining...Think about it, WHICH ONE IS CAUSING YOU TO HAVE LOST YOUR FRIEND...I know what mine is.

TRUE LOVE

In most cases we think: this is true love when in fact it's not. But then, if this is not love, then what is it? There are plenty of things that we are confused when it comes to love.

It could be just the basic instinct. The feelings can be passionate and crazy, but in fact both people may want only companionship. And after all the misunderstanding starts, and once infatuated lovers will find out that they have nothing in common and sometimes they dont even know what to talk to each other.

Another variant is when people lack support, care and attention to their person or they are just scared to stay single. Being with someone can be a habit when one simply got used to the other. People call this type of relationship love just by mistake or trying to conceal the true nature of it.

But than, you may start to wonder what does true love look and feel like? "(beats me) Maybe its when 2 people seem to know each other for ages and even in their instinct. They can go on talking and talking and conversation never lacks topics and never gets dull. Or people dont have to say anything because they understand each other without words. And those moments, minutes and even hours of silence are never uncomfortable. True love is when partners complement one another, when they are together, it's peaceful, the whole world with it's suffering problems doesnt exist and nothing even matters.

True love means understanding. One trust another more than him/herself and feels ready to satisfy every little need of the partner. Two people dont stop for a second looking into each others' eyes.

Its said that 2 person truly in love arent looking at each other but in one direction. And this is rather reasonable because they don’t say nothing “this is yours and this is mine” and share everything: friends, enemies, interests, problems and etc. One has his/her own identity but sees him/herself only as a part of the other. Still real love is not a relationship of property. If you really love someone you may say “I belong you” but always be ready to let go if it makes the person you love happy.

Jealousy stands out of the true love. How can one be jealous if there’s so much love and faithfulness? Real love doesn’t long for power, it doesn’t want to hurt, doesn’t want to punish for mistakes, it’s self-sacrificing and ready to forgive other and other again. But it’s wrong to think that true love is always a suffering, it only means that you take a person as he or she is and don’t expect the one you love to be perfect.

True love isn’t supposed to blow your mind, yet it doesn’t tend to get and to possess – it’s a and very special state of a soul.

But the question that true love is still has no definite answer. Do we truly love only once in our life? At what age are we supposed to meet our love? Does it last for a lifetime or just for a while? Probably everyone has his own answers to this questions. The truth is that no one should spend life chasing ideals or building relationships by some model of a true love. One will probably fail and miss the real thing beyond all this.

We should remember that very many things we need to supply our healthy and comfortable living but only the true feeling of love makes life really longer and happier.